True Love Aspect #3 – Mudita

This month we are going on a journey to understand, deeply, the 4 Aspects of True Love that Buddha described with the help of one of my great spiritual teachers, Thich Nhat Hanh. The first, Maitri ‘the capacity for happiness’, the second aspect of true love Karuna ‘compassion’ that we touched on last week. Today is the third aspect of true love that being Mudita – ‘Joy’ 😀 Mudita is… Read More »

True Love Aspect #2 – Karuna

This month we are going on a journey to understand the 4 Aspects of True Love that Buddha described with the help of one of my great spiritual teachers, Thich Nhat Hanh. The first, Maitri ‘the capacity for happiness’, which we looked into last week. This week we are looking into the second aspect of true love. That is Karuna ‘compassion’. Although when Thich Nhat Hanh speaks about Karuna he… Read More »

True Love Aspect #1 – Maitri

This month we are going on a journey to understand, deeply, the 4 Aspects of True Love that Buddha described with the help of one of my great spiritual teachers, Thich Nhat Hanh. The first of which is known as Maitri, which represents ‘the capacity for happiness’. This aspect of true love focuses on your own capacity to offer happiness to someone. What is most interesting about Maitri is that… Read More »

4 Aspects of True Love as Buddha puts it

Going on from last week’s post about “What is romance?” we were able to establish that romance can be summed up simply through this. “When you are romantic, you are doing what you/your partner knows to be love” We wanted to go a little deeper today to understanding what is love? Not the song by Haddaway of course 🙂 There are ways we know that we are loved as illustrated in… Read More »

What is Romance?

Is it organising for that horse-carriage for your date? Or is it sending her flowers and chocolates? Perhaps just that handwritten message on the fridge. When posed with the question “What is Romance?” it has always been difficult to describe it simply without using a cliche moment. That was until I stumbled across this article where the interviewee, Mary Jo Rapini, puts it simply as… “When you are romantic, you… Read More »

You’re secure now, but for how long?

So it is the final week of our little insights series into the intimate attachment series for adult relationships. We finally come to the attachment style that is the most desirable to be, if you aren’t already, the secure attachment style and how to remain secure. As we have shared over the last two weeks about how to become less anxious/avoidant and become secure the reverse can also happen. You… Read More »

The Lonesome Traveller (An Avoidant’s Path to Love)

For each person with an anxious attachment style there is, at least, another person with an avoidant attachment style. What separates the Avoidants from the Anxious comes down to their deep rooted belief of independence. They see any form of connectedness as a sign of weakness or vulnerability. Even though it has been confirmed through many scientific studies that humans are social creatures that need to connect to others. This self-reliance… Read More »

I’m clingy and I accept it…

Not easily though. Have you ever been told that you were ‘too needy’ or ‘just too high maintenance’? Perhaps you were one who actually said it to your partner at the time. It doesn’t matter which side you fall into, what is interesting is how we, as a society, have created a ideology whereby being independent and in control of your emotions are idolised. We are told to ‘stop crying!’,… Read More »

I’m Attached…

What springs into your mind when you hear the phrase “I’m attached”? Do you withdraw and start to feel like you are tied down? Or do you get that warm fuzzy feeling about being in a relationship? It doesn’t matter which one you relate to (maybe it felt like nothing came up for you and that’s fine). What is interesting is how one word can imply different meanings to each… Read More »

Fail Better

As you may have noticed, it has been a little quiet here… almost a little too quiet. I have failed you. My J.O.B (just-over-broke) started to ramp up and I let it start eating into my time and wearing me down to a point where I felt like giving this all up because it was just ‘too much’. I felt like I had failed in being able to keep my promise to you and… Read More »